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Let’s discuss one of the least talked about topics. Your dirty house. Or I should say your dirty house as it pertains to sex. I’m talking about when your relationship is at the point that you are considering having sex for the first time. What are some of the bedroom red flags to look out for? What if his place a disaster? And so much more…
One of the biggest mistakes men make when inviting a woman over is not having their place clean. It is one of the biggest red flags for a woman. If she can’t sit comfortably on your toilet, without having to hover over it because she is worried about what she might catch from it, I guarantee that she is never coming back. Even if you’re renting your place, invest in a maid at least before a date comes over, especially if this is the first time. If you can’t afford it or don’t want to spend money on a cleaning service, it doesn’t cost that much to buy cleaning supplies and do it yourself. Trust me when I say that women want to take a shower after sex or at least be able to wash up in a clean bathroom, but if your shower/tub looks like there’s a whole eco-system growing in it, she will never come near your penis.
Don’t forget to put away dirty clothes, make sure the place looks neat and not like a college dorm room. You wouldn’t think that I have to remind men of this, but you can’t imagine how many times my ladies report back to me what a disaster the guy’s house was. Besides the obvious toilet and bathroom cleaning, make sure you don’t have your Playboy magazines lying around. I say that only because you never know how a woman will react to that. Some may absolutely love the fact that you have them, myself included but others… not so much. So unless you know her pretty well, I would put them away along with video games. There is no bigger turn off for a woman, (other than a dirty bathroom of course) is walking into a man’s place and seeing video game covers strewn all over the couch or the floor. She won’t judge you for playing video games, in fact some might even ask to play, but she will judge you for leaving it all out without bothering to tidy up.
It would also not kill you to get a candle or two, preferably a light scent that’s not too overpowering, women like lavender or vanilla to set the mood, not to mention adding some amazing scent to the room. If you’re into some kinky sexual things, this is definitely not the time to bring them out or have them out on display. Even if you know she likes it or wants to do those things with you (whips, rope, blindfolds, etc.), you really don’t want to scare her off the first time she is over. Just because she mentioned that she likes those things, it doesn’t mean she wants to do it all the very first time you have sex or first time she is over at your place.
If you are a man reading this, I can already feel your anger boiling over because I’m only addressing the men here. But you and I both know why that is. In most cases women will stress over you coming over for weeks before it actually happens, thus cleaning, scrubbing, hiring a maid and in some cases buying new sheets, pillows or re-decorating altogether! I’m not even going to mention all the grooming women have to do to themselves the very first time you have sex. When a man only has to worry about shaving his face and if we are lucky his pubic region, most women will spend days at various salons getting their hair, nails, eyebrows and lashes done, and that doesn’t even include shaving their entire bodies the day of, and grooming everything from the head down. So the least you can do as a man is to clean your house! That’s really not asking for a lot… Most women will not even consider inviting you or their friends over if her place isn’t clean, however I realize that it’s not always the case. I agree, there are some dirty women as well, but I can guarantee that on that day, she will be smelling of nothing but peaches and roses. Well, at least I hope so… I hope both men and women will keep it all clean and tidy, at least for your first night of sex…