Love and Independence - Does it Mix?

The following post was inspired by a very interesting woman I met a couple weeks ago.  Let's call her Samantha.  Samantha is in her early-forties, is an accomplished career-woman and Mother.  I had the most interesting conversation with her about her stance on relationships and her role in them.  Like most women today she makes a good living, and doesn't need to rely on a man for her happiness when it comes to money, love or sex.  When I asked if she was in a relationship, she replied: "Oh honey, I'm in many relationships.  I never wait on a man to call me.  When I want to see them, I call them myself.  And I have many to choose from."  Her honesty and refreshing outlook on life took me by surprise, but a very good surprise!  I was happy to hear that there are women like her out there who decide to take their personal happiness into their own hands, and not sit around whining about men that never call or the lack of quality men in general.  (And yes, the men all know she isn't exclusive with them) I guess I'm so used to hearing the complete opposite from women that in a way I wanted to use her as an example for others.  Just because you take charge of your love life, call the shots when it comes to relationships, and don't sit around waiting for a man to call you - it doesn't necessarily mean you are acting like a man, or have no feelings.  It means that you are a strong, independent woman who takes charge of her own life, and only lets IN those people that are worth having in your life.  Those people that bring positivity with them and not constant doubt and frustration about where you stand with them, or how they feel about you.  Women in general spend way too much time worrying and thinking about what others think about us, and even more so with a potential partner - be it a man or a woman.

One of the best quotes Samantha has shared with me is this: "Just journey on and don't expect.  If it's meant to be, it will be!  You are the master of your bubble!"  I absolutely love that quote and hope you will too.

So, does love and independence mix when it comes to relationships?  Sure it does.  You make your own rules and what makes you happy in life, or at least you should...

I leave you with these words of encouragement: be yourself, be happy, love and care for others and only let those people in that love and care for you in return because all the others don't matter in the end anyway...

Happy dating this weekend!