Is Your Sex Life Going South? Here Are 3 Tips To Revive It
During lockdown, many couples have reported that their sex life has gone out the window. Indeed, your passion for each other dwindling down is something that many couples experience, whether we are in a lockdown or not, and actually this is quite normal. When you have been together for a number of years it makes sense that you are no longer in the honeymoon phase.
This being said, without a sex life all that’s left is companionship. Some couples accept this and find a way to make it work, but for many this just isn’t the situation they want to be in. Rekindling your sexual chemistry with your partner is definitely possible if you both take steps in the right direction.
Here are three tips to revive your dwindling sex life!
Be Honest About Your Turn-Offs (And Turn-Ons!)
Sometimes when couples get into a routine that’s too busy to incorporate intimacy, it can be used as a way of avoiding each other. In addition, long term couples sometimes lose that sense of abruptness, that sense of honesty, that keeps the sexual chemistry hot. Plus, our busy lives get in the way of that spontaneity - you just don’t have the opportunity to have those getting-carried-away moments any more!
You are so used to being around each other that sometimes you can have conversations without saying a word. But when it comes to sex, you need to be abruptly honest about what you want, and what makes you go cold. Perhaps you want to explore a kinkier side to yourself and you’ve never admitted it, or maybe your partner has habits that make you turned off. Express it!
2. ConsideR Counseling
Many couples are embarrassed at the idea of discussing their sex life with a stranger. It’s true, this does take some courage, and can certainly feel uncomfortable at the beginning. Nevertheless, sexual issues counselling is a great way to connect to the deeper issues behind your sex life.
Therapy can help you solve problems such as:
Mismatched sex drives
Understanding kinks or “fringe” preferences
Fitting in sex around busy working lives and childcare
Lost connections or lack of intimacy
Sexual health problems such as erectile dysfunction.
3. Go Through The Motions
Some couples stop having sex because when they haven’t had sex in a while, they feel like they can’t bridge that gap and go to that place again. Similarly, some couples admit that they just don’t have the sex drive they used to - the desire isn’t there to initiate sex on a whim.
A lot of these couples find though, that by going through the motions - planning, and going through with, sex - they can find that connection again. Sometimes showing up for sex is the hardest thing, and once you actually start, your bodies and emotions can reconnect just the same as they used to.
Final Thoughts
Your sex life going through a rough patch doesn’t mean the relationship is over. Use these tips to get yourselves back on track in the bedroom!